The 3rd Alternative
Key Lesson learned from book “The 3rd Alternative” 1. Paradigm 1: I See Myself 2. Paradigm 2: I See You 3. Paradigm 3: I Seek You Out 4. Paradigm 4: I Synergize with You Paradigm 1: I See Myself Conflict resolution shouldn’t be about compromises. It should be about synergy. And you can arrive at synergy if you start by trying to find out the limitations and the flaws in your solution. Or, better yet, understand your needs and interests. At this stage, you need to ask yourself questions such as these: What’s my story? Do I need to change the script? 1. Where might I have blind spots about myself? 2. How has my cultural programming influenced my thinking? 3. What are my real motives? 4. Are my assumptions accurate? 5. In what way are my assumptions incomplete? 6. Am I contributing to an outcome – an end to the story – that I really want? Paradigm 2: I See You Afterward, you need to move on to seeing the other, or, to use an old Roman adage, hearing out the other side as well. It’s about ...